Indulgent Parenting, How Good It Really Is?

I’ve recently met a mother of a 6 year old child why I was walking my 5 months old baby. We had a nice chat and I enjoyed spending ten minutes with her. But what got me thinking was her kid. This 6 year old child was unlike anything I’ve seen before and it got me thinking about parenting.

The child was very active, was running up and around all the time, asking me questions I never thought a child could ask me. And the kid was intrusive, I have to say that. Not only towards me, but towards a couple of other individuals that were nearby. The mother briefly mentioned how she lets her child to have a lot of freedom, simply supporting him in his adventures and letting him learn on his own.

Well, I’m thinking that may be good for a mother, at least for a while. It’s easier not to confront you child, be authoritative and tell him what he can and can’t do. But later on, the child will have problems in figuring out what’s right and what’s wrong. If he has to learn on his mistakes, he may be severely punished by the society later on. It’s one thing when you make a mistake in your childhood, but the things change when you are a teenager. I wouldn’t dare leave the future of my child to a child! A 6 year old kid simply can’t know what’s good for him. To some extent, he can, but there are many things he doesn’t know about and will make a lousy decision. This is what parents are for.

I don’t know about you, but I would say that having your child decide for himself and letting him enjoy in whatever he wants is simply indulgent parenting. Parents indulge their children by doing this, but in the same time, they are indulging themselves because they do not have to worry about making a tough decision and teaching their children about life.

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