Family and Business Affairs: How Can I Manage Both?

In a world where nothing’s forever and there are no assurances you’ll live to see another day (you never know, you may as well faint at the office, utterly exhausted), it’s essential we hold the phone already! Nope, nobody’s suggesting giving up on your fantastic abilities of being the best parent, spouse, daughter and professional there is, but rather finding a way not to flip. It’s tough. I know.

It was two years ago that I felt I needed to change something

I recall it as if it were yesterday; we were in a meeting (I (still) work at the Stock Market) and as I was looking around at all the (un)friendly faces of my colleagues and friends, everyone on the go for the next big monetary hit, I wondered – how happy are these people, really? How happy am I?

Added, I found myself thinking about my kids and how much I’d been missing them. Oh, sure – go roll your eyes, a cliché mum needed her kids, whatever! At least I’d got some sentiment left in me, and I was and am happy it’s so.

Stuck at the glass office for long hours (somewhat like a rat in a glass box) with an enviable salary and a job so exciting that for most part you feel like you are on drugs, I felt like something was off. To others – I was living a dream; to myself – I was not living at all.

Like always when I’d feel lost, I called up my brother for some love and comfort. At the time – he was (and still is) one of those people who have always known how to handle life with no compromise and yet – be successful at whatever they do. He is an SEO company CEO and owner, and is one of the most scouted entrepreneurs in the business. His wife is more Irina Shayk than she’s a regular person and his son is an adorable, blue-eyed genius who found it interesting to “research” constellations and planets at the age of four (4). Phew!

The moment he said “Hello”, I went “So I wanna know… How do you do it? I need someone successful and honest to tip me off on doing it all”. He laughed and said “I am a functional alcoholic, you can’t ask me that!” We both started laughing and he went on “Oli, have a talk with yourself and sort out your priorities. Whatever you do, you need to be okay with yourself… and you know I’ll always have your back.” And I did have that talk.

By the way, just in case you were wondering – he isn’t an alcoholic. The guy doesn’t even drink.

Reaching out to him was just one of those things when you feel you are on the verge of changing something, but you need just a little push in the right direction.

I am assuming you are in the same/similar jam as I was; and I don’t blame you, not at all. At this point, all I can do is tell you what I did and hope my “life recipe” would be just as beneficial for you as it was for me. Okay?

Okay, here we go:

Build a support system

You can’t live a successful life without relying on someone for help; whether it’s your parents, spouse, siblings, best friends or the help you’ve hired – you can’t do it all alone. And that’s okay, because nobody’s expecting you to. Once you realize asking for help is okay, things will get much easier.

Put yourself first, sometimes

Even machines need to be unplugged from time to time, just so they cool off – let alone people! Have a day in a week that’s just for you – whether it’s doing sports, seeing friends, doing arts and crafts with your kids, sleeping, going to the beauty salon, reading, catching up with your parents, reading all the trashy magazines or going on a date with yourself – it’s all good. As long as it’s just you in your personal space. This will be your weekly restoral to sanity and happiness!

Rely on the extracurricular help

Talking to a therapist once a week, doing physical exercises to de-stress, empowering your body and brains with supplements or relying on yoga for mental clarification – it’s up to you. As long as it feels good and is safe to practice. If you opt for supplements, don’t ever jeopardize your kids (to have their mum go crazy or ill) or your personal health by taking stuff that isn’t safe. My choice fell on lucid smart pills; you go figure what’s best for you.

Cut back work hours

If your financial situation allows it, cut back your work hours so you keep the money coming in while your mental and physical health remain – stable and thriving. Nobody enjoys an edgy, constantly-tired person around. And even more importantly – you won’t enjoy yourself in such a state. Let your husband be the dominant breadwinner now. You’ve shown him (and everyone else) you are just as good, but it’s your choice to rest a bit now.

It’s up to you, darling: chew them up and spit them out – or let be chewed up. I chose the first.

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Protecting your Child during a Divorce

A lot of people stay in a bad marriage for far too long just to protect their children. However, being exposed to constant drama and resentment every day can harm your children much more than a divorce. No one is saying that divorces are harmless for them, but there are certain things you can take care of in order for them to get through the whole process without severe consequences.


As soon as you and your partner have made a decision about separation and divorce, it is important to inform your child about it. You have to do it gently and it is recommended that both of you are present for the talk. Calmly explain to your children why have you made that decision and don’t forget to tell them that it is not their fault. That little detail is of the utmost importance since every child, no matter the age, will start believing it is their fault mommy and daddy are separating. Your children have to know that you love them and that you always will, no matter what, and that the divorce is happening due to some other issues the two of you have.

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Get the Process Done Quickly

Divorces take time, but there are some alternatives to get them done quickly. If a divorce process takes too much time, you are risking too many negative emotions and disagreements at home, which is not a good environment for children. It is best if you avoid the traditional litigation, since those systems will turn you and your spouse against each other from the start, which will only bring more drama into the house. Your best option is an uncontested form of a divorce, which allows you and your spouse to come to mutual agreements about everything; especially the custody. Put your kids first and find ways of making the process shorter and less expensive. You can even opt for an uncontested divorce in California online and speed up the whole divorce process even more. Plus, you are minimizing paperwork and long court visits, which are stressful for all of you.

Spare Your Child the Drama

As soon as the divorce process starts, your child will have to adjust to living in two houses. This can be difficult for them and it is your job to make things easier. While they are staying at your place, focus on doing the things they like and enjoy, rather than spending time talking about the divorce. Avoid trying to get any information about your ex from your children and never use them as a messenger to your ex. Additionally, avoid fighting in front of your children and never speak badly about your ex. That will only put unnecessary stress on them which is not beneficial for anyone in this situation.

Listen to Them

You are not the only one here who will be going through various emotions. As much as it may hurt you to get a divorce, it may hurt your children even more. Despite their age, your children will need and will find the ways of letting their emotions out and you have to be there for them. Listen to what they have to say, what they feel and what they want. You have to be their rock and help them get through this with you. They might cry, get angry or build walls around them, and you have to give them the best support. Also, there is no shame in seeking help from professionals that can help both of you overcome this rough patch in your lives.

Divorces are not easy, and your children might be the ones who suffer the most. Focus on being a good parent, especially during this period, be there for your children and don’t expose them to stress. Make sure they know you both love them the same, and forget about competing at who is a better parent.

10 Online Tools for Homeschool Students – Instruction and Study

There is a lot of flexibility when it comes to the approaches homeschool teachers use. In the process of covering topics for traditional subjects, these teachers can use a variety of resources. The internet is one example of these resources. It is helpful when it comes to studying Math, History, Art, Music, Psychology and many other subjects. The tools available online can be access freely or in an organized fashion.

Online academies provide homeschool students with specially designed subject study. They will be able to learn according to their grade level. The internet has websites and study information that coincides with classroom work. These are resources that can be combined with classic curriculum approaches. Some homeschool students will utilize online tools as their primary instructional materials. Let’s take a look at 10 Online Tools for Homeschool Students that have proven effective.

1 – Subject Matter Topics

Teachers can enter subject matter topics into search engines to find resources. There are videos, notes and instruction helps for Social Studies, History, Government and Geography available online.

2 – Virtual Tours

Field trips are a big part of homeschool education. Virtual tours provide students with an alternative way to see the world. These tours are available online in different countries and fields of study.

3 – Course Lectures

There are many websites that offer students access to lectures on particular courses. Some of these have only audio recordings. Others showcase instructors as they teach individual subjects for courses.

4 – Focused Websites

There are websites online that focus on specific topics. Computer Engineering, Animal Biology, Historical Philosophy are just a few of these. Students can use these sites for assignments and independent study.

5 – Homework Assistance

Each subject in homeschool will have its own set of assignments. There are sites designed to help students with their homework. These are sometimes organized according to grade level work.

6 – Free Resources

Free resources online provide many benefits to homeschool students. These are materials that do not have to be purchased to complete curriculum. Printable worksheets, pdf book files and subject matter lessons are just a few of these resources.

7 – Step-by-Step Projects

Along with the study of individual subjects will be project assignments. Teachers can find these projects in a step-by-step approach. This is a great way to help students of varying ages. Experiments sometimes fit into these project focuses.

8 – Lesson Plan Creations

Teachers require lesson plans to stay focused on subjects like Science, History and English. Fortunately for them, there are many sites online that offer free lesson plan creations.

9 – Gaming Options

Although there are many options for gaming software, the internet provides students with similar opportunities. There are educational sites that offer games that are compatible with academic topics.

10 – Test Preparation

Older students may need test preparation for college and other pursuits. There are testing sites that offer free samples according to subject.

One of the primary goals for homeschool as an educational approach is to build students’ aptitudes. This process focuses on learning styles and alternative techniques. Online tools are helpful when it comes to different styles of learning. They can benefit students of various interests and create strength in important areas.

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Does Your Child Have Bruxism and How to Treat it?

Bruxism or teeth grinding is surprisingly common in children, 3 out of 10 kids have it. Most of them outgrow the condition, but in the meantime it can cause trouble in other aspects of child health. Here’s what you should know about bruxism both before your realize your kid has it and after.

What is it?

Bruxism is a condition in which you, consciously or not, grind your teeth during the night (sleep bruxism) or you clench them together during the day. Sleep bruxism is considered to be sleep- related movement disorder like restless legs syndrome (RLS). Those who have it are more likely to have other similar disorders like snoring and sleep apnea.

Causes of Bruxism?

Causes of bruxism are not sufficiently understood, and they can vary from case to case. There are theories that disturbance in sleep patterns can be the cause in younger children. Also bruxism can occur when child is experiencing pain and is too young to express it. In children above 6 usually grind their teeth as a response to stress (because this period in life is marked by change and increasing social interaction outside the family. In some cases bruxism is byproduct of hyperactivity or reaction to some common medications.


How to know your child has it?

Diagnosing bruxism can be difficult, because it’s an involuntary action and it usually happens at night. Check on your kids periodically during the night, and check their teeth during the day. You can also ask an older sibling to pay attention to grinding noises if they share a room.

If grinding continues for a longer period of time, your child will experience other more noticeable symptoms such as jaw pain, pain while chewing, increased tooth sensitivity, fractured, chipped or loose teeth and least likely worn tooth enamel (exposing deeper layers of a tooth).

It’s also a good idea to be prepared for the possibility of your kid developing bruxism during a stressful period (like moving or starting school). Talk to them about the experience, ask them if they are angry or worried about something in particular.

What if they have it?

If there are reasons to believe your kid has bruxism schedule a checkup at dental health care professional like dentist in Chatswood for a proper diagnosis and a treatment plan. Dentist will determine the damages caused to the tooth enamel. It’s important to convey to your dentist when did you noticed the grinding, because the longer the condition continues, the more damage it does your kids teeth. In most cases the dentist will recommend using a night guard or a mouth splint. This devices wears off if they’re used for longer periods of time and need to be changed (they usually last a year). Damage made to the teeth can be managed by using battery powered toothbrushes and toothpaste specially suited for children with bruxism.

This should also be accompanied by muscle relaxing exercise to help with jaw or chewing pain.

It’s important to note, that bruxism is not just a dental, but also a nervous condition and removing the root cause of grinding is as important as dental care. First of all you should provide a stable sleeping pattern for your kid and remove any sources of bright light from a room during the night. Relaxing bath or music before going to bed should also help.

Most of all if your kid is going through a stressful time, it should be able to confide in you, and you should provide emotional support

Bruxism is fairly common and curable condition .Once you’re sure your kid has it, tackle it from both dental and psychological perspective and everything should be fine.

Top Five Scriptures for Families

In this article we are going to look at five Scriptures that apply directly to families. Let’s take a look.

And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15, KJV

Joshua made a commitment here: regardless of what anyone else might choose to do, his family would serve the Lord. As the head of his household, he decided the path that his family would take. He chose to lead his family in way that would be pleasing to the Lord, making sure they were taught in accordance with what he knew of the will of God, and that he lived accordingly. In a nutshell, Joshua threw the doors of his home open to God, willing to remove anything that displeased the Lord and filling it with things like praise, worship, Bible reading, devotions, and godly living.

Honor your father and mother so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” Exodus 20:12, KJV

This scripture is directed at the children. Whether you like your parents or not, whether you think they are worthy or not, the Bible says that you are to honor them. That honor doesn’t just extend until you leave home, but is something you practice for the rest of your life. Treat them with the highest respect, and you will find that God will bless you.

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6, KJV

As a parent, it is your responsibility to teach your family about the Lord, about right from wrong, about the world and the powers of darkness, and about how to live right. This means far more than just taking your family to church and Sunday school. It means being an example to your family. It implies living the best way you know how, and repenting when you fail. It means not saying one thing and doing, or living one way on Sunday and another on Saturday. It is a consistent lifestyle. Sometimes it might seem that all your attempts to raise your children correctly fail, but sometimes it does take years for that training to sink in. The word of God promises that if you will raise your children right, they won’t ever forget what you taught them.

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4, KJV

This is another reminder for parents: don’t subject your children to unrealistic expectations. An incredible amount of anger and hostility can be built up in the heart of a young person when they can never seem to please their parents, or nothing they do ever seems good enough. The Lord never asks of us what He won’t provide us the grace to do, and we should never expect more of others than what they can do.

But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Mark 10:6-9, KJV

The family unit of is utmost importance to the Lord, and He desires to see families, and couples, stay together. Whenever you pray for your family, seeking the Lord to bring unity and peace, know that you are indeed praying in the will of God. He is on your side!

Mimi Rothschild is a veteran homeschooling mother of 8, writer of a series of books called Cyberspace for Kids, and passionate advocate for children and education that is truly worthy of them. In 2001, Mimi and her late husband founded Learning By Grace, a leading provider of online Christian homeschooling Academies. 

Homeschooling While Single? Absolutely!

Single parents are not left out of the homeschooling equation. In fact, many homeschoolers are single moms (though dad’s can do it, too!) that are making this seemingly impossible task work for their family on a daily basis. Though it is absolutely possible, that does not mean easy, and there is no doubt that homeschooling as a single parent presents difficulties and obstacles that a two parent household doesn’t face to the same degree, but if you are certain that it is the right choice, then you can feel good about taking the plunge, knowing that all across the country other single parents are successfully doing the same.

Financial concerns are likely the most daunting hurdle to get past when considering homeschooling. If your children are too young to be left alone, the matter is further complicated. But, there are local homeschool coops and other single homeschool moms out there in your community that can help support you in your efforts. Maybe you work a part time job a few mornings a week. Don’t hesitate to lean on your family and friends that may be available to watch your kids those few hours, and especially other moms that will jump at the chance for you to watch their kids during their own working hours. Community and support are key here, and are one of the greatest blessings of the homeschool world.

Working from home is a great option for income, be it as a medical transcriptionist, blogger, or real estate agent, there are countless ways for an individual to work and support a family from home. Again, it may not be easy, but nothing about raising kids and being a good parent is, yet somehow you find a way. There is a way here, too.

Maybe you have junior high or high school aged kids for whom public school is no longer working. The learning environment may not be the best for them, or they could be victims of bullying and hurtful behavior. At those ages, your kids can likely be trusted to work independently for longer periods of time that will allow you more freedom in working. You can homeschool in the evenings, or otherwise schedule around your working hours.

Parenthood is tough. Single parenthood is extra tough. There is no way around either of those two facts. A single parent struggling to make ends meet may laugh at the thought of working less and homeschooling their children, but don’t let all of the “what if’s” discourage you. Reach out to your family, your church family, and to other single moms and homeschool moms alike. There is a vast support network out there that is likely ready and more than willing to help you on this journey. Just don’t let fear hold you back from doing what you know in your heart is the right thing. Every leap of faith is preceded by some degree of fear, but if you never try and go for it you will never reap the abundant rewards.

For 15 years Mimi Rothschild has been privileged to help hundreds of thousands of homeschoolers educate their children at home. The MorningStar Academy is a private online Christian school offering diplomas and teachers. The Jubilee Academy is an online Christian curriculum provider offering over 150 full year online Christian courses for PreK-12.

3 Fair Trade Products That Can Help You Make a Difference

In the last few years, the importance of ethical trade practices and standards have come to light in the public consciousness. Many of the brands that are available in western retail locations profit from the exploitation of cheap foreign labor and goods, a practice that has led to slowed worldwide development and the continued poverty of many developing nations. In order to combat these injustices, the best way for a consumer to make their voice heard is to speak with their patronage. Here are 3 examples of fair trade products brands that are openly committed to the enforcement of fair trade practices.

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1. Tompkins Point Polo Shirts

This apparel brand is the first in the United States that was officially certified to be fair trade. It sources all of its materials and labor from small factories and farms, and is dedicated to ensuring that a fair wage is always paid. In addition, Tompkins Point has pledged that 25% of its profits will always go to charity.

This brand is well renowned for its classic, business casual appropriate styles. The standout product is its breezily stylish polo shirts, which come complete with classic logo embroidery on the chest. It comes in a wide variety of colors, and is sure to please with its high quality textiles and solid construction.

2. Green & Black’s Chocolate

Green & Black’s is a brand that boasts great oversight on every step of its chocolate making process, from bean growth to packaging. This ensures that fair trade is active in every part of the chain.

This choclatier offers options that are sure to satisfy even the most persnickety chocolate snob. This includes bars with a wide variety of different cacao percentages, as well as bars that only contain cacao beans from particular growing regions. Each locality produces beans that differ in subtle but important ways flavor wise, and a sampling of different Green & Black’s bars is one of the easiest ways to take a trip around the world.

3. Tree Top Juice

Juice is a product that is often neglected when free trade certification is brought up, as it is usually assumed that fruit is largely produced domestically. The dropping costs of worldwide shipping means that in the modern day this is not necessarily the case.

Tree Top Juice offers a wide variety of juice types, all made with fruit that is certified fair trade. They produce standard flavors, like apple and orange, as well as more exotic fare. Take a trip to the tropics with pineapple juice, or treat yourself to a tasty antioxidant blast with berry juice.

In the end, it is impossible to end unfair trade practices without the aid of policy. It is important to express advocacy of fair trade, whether it be with participation in protests, the signing of petitions, or with appropriate voting. At the same time, it doesn’t hurt to make sure that you are not feeding a harmful system. By buying certified free trade products, you can get quality goods without paying companies that participate in unfair trading.

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What is Attachment Parenting?

Attachment parenting is a parenting philosophy that has gained the attention of new parents with vocal celebrity advocates including Mayim Bialik (actress from Big Bang Theory) and Alanis Morissette (solo singer Jagged Little Pill). What is the philosophy behind this style?

Dr. William Sears is the pediatrician who came up with the phrase “attachment parenting” based on the developmental psychology theory in which the child needs to form a secure attachment with the parent during the critical period of six months to two or three years. This period is when babies exhibit signs of separation anxiety. When children feel neglected or insecure, it can lead to a variety of mental health problems including depression, anxiety, or eating disorders. The purpose of attachment parenting is to increase the child’s development of secure attachment through the eight principles that increase a parent’s sensitivity to their infants needs.

Attachment Parenting

The Eight Principles of Attachment Parenting, as identified by Attachment Parenting International, are:

  1. Preparing for pregnancy, birth, and parenting

  2. Breastfeeding is feeding with love and respect

  3. Respond with sensitivity as expressions of emotions (positive and negative) are efforts at communication

  4. Use nurturing touch such as skin-to-skin touching and baby-wearing

  5. Engage in nighttime parenting such as co-sleeping arrangements

  6. Provide constant, loving care

  7. Practice positive discipline with techniques including distract, redirect, and guiding.

  8. Strive for balance in personal and family life, such as a support network and a healthy lifestyle

Parents have interpreted these principles in different ways, with some more extreme methods under scrutiny in mainstream society. Criticisms include concerns with co-sleeping and SIDS as well as a lack of conclusive research that the attachment parenting is better than other methods including traditional parenting practices.

Mimi Rothschild is a veteran homeschooling mother of 8, writer of a series of books called Cyberspace for Kids, and passionate advocate for children and education that is truly worthy of them. In 2001, Mimi and her late husband founded Learning By Grace, a leading provider of online Christian homeschooling Academies. 

What To Keep In Mind When You Buy Cake Decorating Supplies

If you are interested in buying cake decorating supplies, you should keep a few things in mind. You want to buy the right supplies. You want to find the ones that will work for you and your cake baking plans. Different people like to decorate in different ways.

The first thing you want to get is something to put the cake on. You will want something that is easy to transport and can make decorating the cake a lot easier for you. You want a turntable of some kind and a case you can put it in when you are done to make it easier to decorate and to take to where you need to take it to.

You should also find some great supplies for coloring your frosting. When you get enough colors you will be able to make any color frosting that you want. You won’t have to run out and buy anything when you are making your cake.

Cake Decorating Supplies
Make sure to find some good instruments so you can write on the cake or create flowers and other types of decorations. You can find a kit where you can get the coloring and the tips together which is a great deal. Find a kit with enough tips for what you might want to create.

When it comes to buying cake decorating supplies you need to have some type of budget. The reason for this is because there are a lot fo great items out there and if you don’t have a limit you will buy all of them. You want to make sure you don’t overspend on the supplies.

Make a list of what you think you might need and look for deals. Go out and see each of the items before you decide to buy. You should try to go and do this even if you plan to buy online. It can be a great way to make sure you really want the items.

Think about what you really will use and what you won’t. If you don’t have a lot of experience with decorating a cake you should ask people who do or look up the information. You want to be prepared but you don’t want to overdo it at first. Especially if you don’t know if it is something you are going to stick with or not.

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How To Shine In The Kitchen – The Best Cookware Set

There is a saying that a bad workman always blames his tools – however this is usually said with a bit of a smirk. The truth of the matter is that bad tools will simply destroy any chance of a great outcome.

The rule is hard and fast – if you’re cutting down trees you certainly want a chainsaw that’s not going to throw its chain and cause a trip to the local emergency room.

If you’re a fisherman you certainly don’t want a boat that’s going to sink under you, nor do you want a rod that going to snap at the first sign of a record breaking fish. And you certainly don’t want to end up with a hook embedded anywhere in your body that would necessitate a trip to the hospital (where you cam meet up for a cup of coffee with the aspirant lumberjack mentioned in the paragraph above).

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Using a sub standard cookware set in the kitchen will usually not require a trip to see the kind folk at the local emergency ward – but it will still potentially mess up your evening. You want to buy from best cookware brands only!

So how do you select a cookware set that will deliver every single time?

As with all things in life it depends on what you expect – and what you are prepared to spend.

There are cookware sets that can cost thousands of dollars – and there are those that will set you back a much smaller amount.

The key is to select a cookware set from a recognized brand – preferably one that has built up a reputation over time.

Then look at the material that is used in the construction of the cookware. You simply cannot go wrong with cast iron, sure the upkeep requires a bit more attention, but heat distribution and longevity is top class.

Don’t turn your nose up at stainless steel either. If you buy from a reputable manufacturer stainless steel cookware sets can last for generations.

Just make sure that if you’re buying from an online supplier that they make user evaluations available – the real world opinions of people who are actually sweating it out in the kitchen are worth more than a million marketing words.

In the end it’s up to you. Just make sure that you don’t skimp on the rest of your equipment – a great cookware set is not going to be worth the money spent if you’re using blunt knives or ingredients that are substandard.

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